Deal With Irritation In A Positive Way

Control your irritation when others push your buttons.

Do you let people upset you? When someone is trying to upset you the worst thing that you can do is oblige them.

There is always that one person that knows how to get under your skin.

By rewarding their behaviour, you encourage the same thing to happen again in the future.

Take control of the situation by taking control of yourself.

Consider why they are trying to upset you. Does the other person dislike you? Are they trying to be funny? Is it about control? What is the purpose of their behaviour? Once you know the motivation, you will be in a better position to choose your response.

Remove the reward. If they are trying to be funny, tell them you do not appreciate it. If they are simply trying to upset you, smile and move on. When they do not get the reaction they are looking for, they will usually stop.

 Stay calm. You are bigger than a few harsh or mean-spirited words. It is just sound, not unlike a refuse lorry rolling down the street. Take a deep breath, think about something pleasant, and move on. Calming yourself is a skill. Practice as much as possible. Soon, nothing will be able to upset you.

Consider how serious you need to be. If the behaviour is inappropriate and you are at work, consider speaking with your boss or human resources. Do you need to contact the police? Take the necessary steps to ensure your safety is maintained.

Consider if you are at fault in any way. Do you complain or whine excessively? Are you unreasonably fussy? Then you will probably draw some unwanted comments, fair or not. Do you pick on others? Some observers might decide to even the score.

Stick up for yourself. It is possible that the other person does not realise that they are upsetting you. Speak up for yourself and let them know how you feel. No one can read your mind. Take responsibility for letting others know how you want to be treated. Many bullies will stop if they face any resistance.

Deal with your buttons. They are your buttons after all. Why are you so sensitive about this issue? What can you do to remove all the emotion surrounding it? Your personal buttons are your responsibility to deal with. Enjoy the freedom that comes from eliminating them.

Realise that harmful comments come from personal pain. People are mean when they are hurting in some way. Try to feel compassion for the other person and avoid taking the comments seriously. Some people erroneously believe they can make themselves feel better by making others feel worse.

Leave the situation. Take time out if you are very upset. It happens. Take a break and give yourself a few minutes to regroup. Everyone needs a time-out on occasion. Go back with a calm mind and refreshed attitude.

It is no fun when others are trying to get a rise out of you. However, you do not have to get upset when someone else tries to annoy you. Take control of the situation and your emotions. Do what you can to discourage the other person. Maintain your composure and choose your response wisely. You will find that others are pushing your buttons less and less and therefore you will become less and less irritated.

With thanks to Sean May https://www.scienceofimagery.com/top-10-ways-react-irritation/

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