Self Worth

Self-respect is the most crucial aspect of one’s life. If you do not understand how to appreciate yourself and your worth, how do you expect others to? Life is too short to maintain toxic relationships. In order for yours to flourish, you need to work on yourself first.

“Don’t expect anyone to love or respect you if you don’t fully love yourself first.”

People accept awful jobs and relationships because they do not respect themselves enough to realize they deserve better. Too many people become complacent in these aspects and stop striving for greater things.

Relationships become detrimental when the self-respect is lacking. You wind up hurting the other person and yourself. You need to love yourself enough to choose the ones that make you happy and motivate you to grow.

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anyone or anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.”

This does not come easy so a conscious effort must be consistently made on a day-to-day basis. A lack of self-respect can, and most often does, result in depression and self-destructive behaviors. You need to reinforce your positive qualities and actively try to fix your negative qualities. When everything else in the world fails you, you will always have your self-respect to fall back on. How you feel about yourself affects every single aspect of your life.

If you don’t respect yourself then you won’t take care of yourself the way you should. By achieving this, you set boundaries for your life and your relationships. This will encourage people’s deference to you. You cannot allow people to treat you poorly and if they do, you need to recognize your worth and walk away. Others cannot negatively influence your opinion of yourself; this will only lead to degradation of your worth. You must love and respect yourself before anyone else can.

“We accept the love we think we deserve.”

Self-esteem gives you the confidence to succeed and without it you are simply placing limitations on yourself.

You and only you are responsible for your fate. Life is no fun if you spend it hating yourself; this stifles any progress you hope to make. Once your confidence is up, you will stop making the terrible mistake of comparing yourself to others. You will already be comfortable and happy with who you are.

When you love yourself, you take pride in who you and what you have to offer. Too many people place the needs of others before their own, but in order to respect others, you need to meet your own needs first. How can you truly learn to appreciate others if you can’t even appreciate yourself? This is fundamental to personal growth and a concept too many people do not realize.

Copyright Ashley Fern http://elitedaily.com/life/motivation/your-self-worth-is-everything/

For Mothers’ Day and Fathers Too

We all have or have had a mother and a father and, of course most of us remember them especially on their special days. But now it could be time to go beyond cards and flowers.

All of us owe a deep debt of gratitude to our parents for creating us in the first

place, then for giving us roots in a secure environment to progress from infancy to adolescence. The best parents of all gave us wings so that we could explore the world and soar to the heights of our own potential.

This is the ideal situation and, alas, one that a great many people feel they have lost out on.

Many of our attitudes to work, relationships and life in general are coloured by how close our childhood came to the ideal. Any couple can become parents without any training, lessons or experience. So it is not surprising that many fall short of the perfection that we might have felt was our due.

The key to overcoming our resentment or regret is forgiveness. After all, what has been done cannot be undone and you are what you are. You are also what you think, so Mothers’ Day is a great time to eliminate any negative thinking about your parents”.

Our parents did the very best that they could with the knowledge that was available to them at the time. Like you, they only discovered what they didn’t know when they needed to know it - so it is hardly surprising that they may have made a few mistakes along the way”.

This does excludes parents who wilfully mistreat their children from this general observation. These individuals will require a greater effort for forgiveness but it is an effort well worth making. Some people are held back from achieving the great things in life because there is simply no room to let them in.

If you harbour a grudge or resentment it will fester and impact on everything else that you do and that is like trying to cycle uphill with the brakes on. The way to release the brakes is to just let go.

If it becomes apparent that a person is being held back by some imagined past injustice, they need to ask themselves three simple questions, ‘Can I let that feeling go? ‘Would I let it go? When?”

Their answers invariably lead to them becoming aware of the way forward and going for it. This process also has a positive impact for people who are parents themselves. In understanding their own parents, they find a greater understanding of their children.

Copyright The Coaching Academy