“Keep calm and carry on” is a wonderful saying that you can take to heart when you are trying to keep calm in the middle of adversity. But it is not easy!
When you are in a difficult situation, your fight-or-flight response is in full active mode and you are hyper focused on the problem at hand. This is okay – you have to be primed for action and rapid problem-solving; however, that heightened state of a stress response, can cause you to make decisions that are not in your best interests. You do not have to let adversity keep in you in a state of fear – let it come, and then let it go!
A stress response is a reactive state. Things come flying at you, and you react. Many of these reactions can be counterproductive in that they may not have the long-term in mind. Here are some ways to learn to be more positive during adversity, so that you keep your vibration as consistently high as possible, and your choices serve you better:
1. Whenever you are faced with a decision during a time of adversity, do not make it immediately (whenever possible). Make sure you can take as much time as you need to make an informed and less emotional choice. If you can defer your decision for a day or more and give yourself time to consider your options, great. If you have to make a decision faster, insist on at least a few minutes to breathe and ask your higher self for guidance. It is essential to be open to hearing/feeling an answer you may not like.
2. Listen to your inner wisdom by heeding what your body is telling you. A decision that looks right on paper could be wrong for you – any tension, queasiness, uneasiness, anxiety, etc. in your body is a very clear signal that a particular choice is bad for you. Visualise yourself in a calm and happy space, choosing “Door #1” and pay close attention to your physical response. Then, visualise yourself taking that choice back and choosing “Door #2” – again monitor your physical response. Go with your gut feeling. Your inner wisdom will not steer you wrong!
3. Take time to express gratitude for this situation. This is the tough part, but you will find that if you dig into the amazing opportunities for growth and learning that this situation is bringing to you, you will see that it is possible to turn a problem into a cherished teacher. No, it will not make the situation fun, but it will make it feel important in a GOOD way.
4. Admire yourself! Give yourself props anytime you handle something gracefully, powerfully, confidently, compassionately, kindly and in a way that respects and honours you and your values. When you do not handle a situation in a way that you feel good about later, face it – accept that you made an unfortunate choice in your response, and learn from it.
Shifting your perspective to one that honours the inherent lessons and growth opportunities in the situation will help you see it in a more positive light.
With thanks to Christie Marie Sheldon http://www.loveorabove.com/blog/tips-for-being-positive-in-adversity/
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