You know who you are. You know you are kind, genuine and bright. Full of empathy, love, gentle and gracious. Even if they failed to see it, you must never forget it.
The world is full of people who are waiting to find these qualities in a person, but some of those people will take advantage of your kindness. It can make you feel empty, hollow and even make you forget who you are. It can also make you question yourself and know who you are working towards being. These people come into your life dressed as a friend, a colleague, a potential partner and they will enjoy these parts of you, just as you will enjoy all the wonderful parts of them. They do care, I am not saying they do not, but they will care more about how you make them feel rather than how they make you feel. They will consume you and all the emotions you make them feel and once they have had enough, once it starts to become too much, they will let you go just as quickly as they picked you up.
They might even come back for seconds or thirds and it will be so ridiculously hard to say no because you will want to help. You do not want someone you cared for to feel sad or upset, so you will stay and let them feed off of you again.
It will feel like you are being weak, but you know truthfully that it is the purest form of your strength, to be able to help someone who hurt you, to put yourself aside and to use your best qualities to make someone else feel good about themselves. But just like the first time, once they are done using you up, they will go again. It will feel worse than the first time but it will be easier to recover from, easier to pick yourself up and dust yourself off.
Even though you are all of these wonderful things, you must also remember you are not responsible for their emotions anymore. If they choose to leave, let them. As hard as it is, do not let them come back, turn them away. It is one of the kindest things you can do for them, to allow them to use themselves, instead of another person, to alleviate whatever pain they are feeling. You have learnt how to use who you are to aid those you love, and so they must do the same. Learn when to say ‘enough is enough’. It will be the greatest gift you can give yourself.
You know who you are. You shine bright for all those who are willing to remove their shades. Never let anyone dim your sparkle because it is the only one you have got.
With thanks to Jessica Cross https://thoughtcatalog.com/jessica-cross/2017/08/never-let-anyone-dim-your-sparkle-because-its-the-only-one-youve-got/
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